When is it right to move in by yourself?

Are you living the life you want? Do you have everything you wished for?

I've always been quite ambitious and have worked all my ways to achieve what I wanted. And right now I am very proud and glad for all I have achieved by myself and never depending on anyone or having had to ask for anything. Yet still there are some things that seem to be hard to get. 



Now I am at a point in my life that I feel really glad and grateful for all I have and all I have done so far (regarding studies, jobs I took, places I went to, people, etc. etc.) and I could say my bucket list is full of ticks (yaay!). But yes there is THE big thing which has been there since forever (since I fell in love with the city of Barcelona) so there we go.. when should I move in my own place in the (2nd) city that never sleeps? 

Lately I have been browsing apartments in the city but to my disappointment I find them rather expensive for what they offer. Maybe it's just that I don't like to spend a lot of money on something I know I want but which would deprive me from doing other stuff I use to do that involve spending some savings too (travelling for instance). Plus, I was born with some good taste and don't accept anything that comes first hand... so I work harder just to be able to afford what I consider it's acceptable for me. Therefore despite knowing I could afford those rents something inside me is saying I would regret it if I still want to visit those places I have on my bucket list (which I do).





PROS and CONS? Mental battle

On the one hand I could just save some money up while I remain in this situation and use the train to get to work... but on the other hand... I can't wait until this is over..... I love the job I have in Barcelona and I should be jumping with happiness every morning but instead I just put on my serial killer face and go to work with (at least great outfits) the permanent thought someday I will just live in the city itself and it will take me a lot less to get to work, looking all decent and smiling. 


PRO: I don't have many major expenses (car, heat, light, water etc.) that add up a lot, so clearly I can save up or buy random stuff/travel a lot -which I do and feel really grateful I can do so. Be clear I am super conscious of what I have and how lucky I am to have that much but I also know I worked a lot for all this and my family did too. 
CONS: I can't enjoy super nice schedules at work if I still have to wake up at 6am to be there at 9... and leaving work at reasonable hour like 3-4 but getting home super late due to the fact that my line has only 1 train per hour and they don't even work properly (lucky if they are not on strike or it rains, which makes everything a caos). Instead of getting home wanting to do stuff i just collapse into the sofa, have dinner and call it a day.  How much longer can I continue like this?




Sharing apartment? 

Ouuu I don't think that would be a good idea at least for me. Everyone says prices are too high in Barcelona so most people opt for the shared apartments either with friends or strangers. I don't know which option is worse. Don't get me wrong I so do not hate my friends. I am afraid I would end up "fighting" over stupid things (read fixations) with them, I'm sure. Everyone has their things and while I could not stand a messy apartment or seeing dishes in the kitchen, I know I could be a nuisance for other things (most of them my habit of complaining about noise..or almost anything)... or that i can possibly survive with the minimum time cooked meals EVERY day (lazy in the kitchen AF). And with strangers I don't know about you but I don't really feel I am at my own place if I am sharing it with another person. What if you want to bring your friends one day but the other person doesn't like that (or the other way round)? What if you are tired or need to go to sleep early but can't because the others are noisy/leave lights on etc. etc? I know I may sound silly or too princess but I prefer to be clear and state I'd rather pay more and live by myself than having to go through all the trouble of decision-making, arguments and so on.


How much longer can you live with your parents?

It is a very common situation here if you are still in your twenties even getting to your thirties. But we all know it gets more and more difficult to live at home when sometimes parents don't see you as a 25 year old but rather a 15 one. And it is sooo much difficult after you tried the living alone thing before... Maybe it's me & I am just too anti-social at home (I don't really speak before my morning coffee and always avoid any conversation) -I always blame it on the public transport which makes me super tired, and the fact that I live in the city center and noise comes from everywhere all day (&night) long. ;)



So with this mental battle of me vs. me I am spending my days at work wishing I lived closer to it but also thinking about the money I am saving for a special trip (xmas? ny? huhu) too.. Chances are I continue like this for some time so I can travel around without having to live miserably. Still young to do all the things I wrote on my list. 

This is a common and lately very commented on- topic among my group of friends...Any opinions and/or experiences are more than welcome! 
xx
lau

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5 comments to blue my mind

  1. What a great and personal post. I agree with you that this part of life can be very stressful. I live in the middle east so living with our parents is a whole different situation over here. People live with their parents until they get married and move out. I'm absolutely against this but i'm one of few people who are. Right now i'm planing to go out on a one year exchange year in Germany, and will be living in a university dorm, which i'm very excited about. Thank you for the great post.

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    1. I'm sure you will have a great experience in Germany, I spent a year living and studying in Belgium living by myself and loved the experience -which made it hard to go back living with parents.
      xx
      lau

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  2. What a great and personal post. I agree with you that this part of life can be very stressful. I live in the middle east so living with our parents is a whole different situation over here. People live with their parents until they get married and move out. I'm absolutely against this but i'm one of few people who are. Right now i'm planing to go out on a one year exchange year in Germany, and will be living in a university dorm, which i'm very excited about. Thank you for the great post.

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  3. Your exploring all the angles and aren't rushing into making a decision, which is smart. No sharing aparatment, wouldn't work for me.

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  4. I love your place. Honestly it is such a great idea. I went right from my parents to getting married,many moons ago. I lived alone after my divorce and it was great and I think everyone needs to.

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